'No, me do it!' Is a phrase I hear often in my house with two toddlers and as much as I can I try to allow them to. Why? Because allowing them to do things for themselves is a great way not only for them to learn stuff, right and wrong ways of doing things and working out problems, but it also helps foster that important independence and self esteem.
Clothing can be a big part of this.
if she wants to choose her own clothes, make peace with crazy color combos (but do stand your ground when it comes to flip-flops in February or party dresses at the park). Help her succeed by buying items that are easy for her to put on herself (elastic waist versus button-fly jeans; Velcro-closing sneakers versus lace-ups).
Letting children dress themselves is a great way for them to develop confidence and self esteem but in order to help with this you need to be careful which clothes you buy. Go for clothes with easy fastenings, elasticated waists and holes large enough to easily get their heads through. With shoes buy velcro, slip ons or zips instead of laces and with coats a simple zipper is much easier for little fingers than lots of buttons.
Of course, having them learn how to take their own clothes off does come with its own problems